Tim Gomes
April 15, 2014
I’m Tim Gomes, author of STILLBORN:An Adoptee’s Sixty Year Search for Life.
Stillborn is my memoir about the sixty-year search for the unmarried teenager who abandoned me at birth. After mistreatment in my first foster home, I was adopted by my second. Curiosity about my adoption grew as did I.
After marriage and fatherhood, the first search for my parents is started. It is unsuccessful, and my interest fades away. Twenty years later, I search again using the growing Internet. Again, it is unsuccessful.
When I develop a serious health issue, a genealogist is hired. In spite of false names used on my birth certificate, both birth-parents are found after a prolonged search. Only my mother knew I existed, having told her ex-lover I had been stillborn. The next four years bond our divergent families closer together.
Both parents died with me at their side, and I learned to accept the emotions I had repressed all these years.
RonaldPreog
December 14, 2016 at 9:23 PMThanks for sharing your thoughts. Take care.
Cristie Fulton Arias
April 2, 2017 at 8:33 AMAmazing you were able to locate them given false names and not much to go on. Hope the rest of your life fulfilling for you and that you recovered from serious illness.
Tim Gomes
May 1, 2017 at 12:21 PMThank you for your reply. Yes, it was fortunate my birth-parents were found. The short time we spent together was unforgettable. In particular, Elden had not known about me. It was an amazing time when Elden held his only great-grandson named Elden two days before he died. The last words he heard before he took his last breath was mine. The last words Donna heard was also mine after the breathing tube was removed and she left us.